Many times, when I have couple that come by to talk about their relationship, I find that they are comunicating with their spouse about the relationship. As a matter of fact, that is ALL they are talking about. And that is no fun.
I believe in working though our relationships. It is important that we take time to discuss our comunication styles and our disagreements.Â
But, we also need to talk about the price of tea in China. Really!
Many times when we focus so much on “the marriage” it bogs us down to the point where we don’t enjoy being together at all.
Do you think it is fun to talk constantly about the problems in your life and how they are centered on the person you are married to? Do you think it is fun to be on the recieving end of this conversation every time you talk?
Now, listen to what I’m saying. It is important that we discuss our problems. But discuss them and move on.
There is more to talk about that how you don’t get along–why do you try getting along?
Many times we talk forever about our problems because we don’t want to make the effort to truly change.
If you really want to change your marriage, take what your spouse has said and change. Then take what you said to your spouse and forgive.
Sounds easy? No, it isn’t–but I would imagine that is what you’ve been putting off.
Monica says
This is good advice! Sometimes you have to go back to the basics of your relationship and remember your friendship with your spouse. Friendship involves “talking about nothing”. Thank you for recognizing that!