On Saturday, Monica and I had a couple of friends over to play Canasta. We don’t typically play with partners, therefore we had to work out the rules; so we would all understand. I was reminded of one particular question this morning as I was counseling a couple seeking to be married.
While we played the game, Monica insisted that we would play “Girls against Guys.” So me and my partner sought to win against our wives—which is not always the best scenario during a marriage conference.
The question occurred when we were in the middle of the game and I wanted to use my partner’s cards to help me make more points for our team. The answer was that we worked with was that my partner and I “operated as one person.”
That is exactly how marriage should be.
We are to work together as one. We are not enemy combatants; nor are we seeking our own interest. We are to operate as one. Seeking to win the game together; playing off each other’s cards—finding their strengths and using them; building winning combinations to help us win the games of life together.
That is what marriage should look like. It is more than just team work, it is operating as one person.