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I’ve been watching the first season of “Heroes” in my CHU at night. In the very first episodes the phrase “Save the Cheerleader, Save the World” is repeated.
You must see the series to understand exactly what this phrase means, but it has a completely different meaning in marriage.
During the dating process, when we fall in love–we do everything to lift our future mate’s self esteem. We are their number one fan and we are the biggest cheerleader for them. It is one of the reasons why we liked and loved the other person from the beginning.
Every one needs a cheerleader–some one who can say to you “good job!” after everyday–regardless of the outcome. This is actually normal.  It has to be honest, but we rarely screw up that much that nothing can be encouraged. I have found that many of our marriage problems result from some sort of self esteem issue. If we were encouragers to our spouses, our suggestions and our opinions wouldn’t hit as harsh criticism and lead to arguments. If we were encouragers, our spouses would be assured of our love for them and remind them of our love when temptation knocks at the door. If we were encouragers, our spouses would feel appreciated and loved.
Be the encourager in your relationship. Strengthen your marriage by strengthening the self esteem of your partner.
 When the phone calls are made…Are we more inclined to criticise or encourage? Are we more apt to see the fault in our spouse or the tireless efforts to make something right? Are we more interested in tearing down our spouse or lifting them up?
Other ways to encourage are writing personal notes of love and appreciation, sending care packages, or pictures–reminders go along way to encourage the person that they are appreciated.
Be the encourager and…
Save the Cheerleader, Save the World!